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MR. L Rx's PERSONAL FREE DIRECTORY OF DATING AND RELATING SITES

OK guys so I'm going to give away a little bit of my secret for free - that is--HOW I GOT 700 DATES IN ONE YEAR.

Now I didn't do it by meeting women at work...or at the grocery store....or the park....I did it BY ADVERTISING using ONLINE and PERSONAL AD Services.

So here are a few of my personal suggestions for DATING SERVICES (more for getting dates) and RELATIONSHIP SERVICES (specializing in more compatible match-ups for creating long lasting RELATIONSHIPS.)

STAY TUNED AND COME BACK TO THIS PAGE ABOUT ONCE A WEEK as I WILL BE UPDATING IT AND ADDING more services as I review my own personal statistics and review some of the NEW services I haven't used yet. 

NOW ONE LAST WORD OF FREE ADVICE GET "How I got 700 Dates in one year" to fully understand how to use the sites below. BUT IF YOU DON'T, or WON'T, or CAN'T-- then I suggest you set up a FREE profile on each of the sites below and test them out. -- Everyone is different, so test them all out and see which one is right for you.

FEATURED - This is a NEW SECTION - These are sites that YOU GUYS have been giving me the best feedback on.  Here are YOUR TOP 3 SITES:

1) I guess you guys not only like the fully functional FREE TRIAL OFFER but you like the site after trying it out too, because your feedback made this your number one favorite site- FREE TRIAL OFFER - NO CREDIT CARD REQUIRED. Give it a try and click on the name. 

Singlesnet.com

One of the hottest dating sites on the internet, Singlesnet.com now boasts a great Free Trial offer with NO credit card required. It takes only 30 seconds to create an account, and users can immediately receive and reply to messages from other Singlesnet members!

 

 

2) You guys seem to like all the features and the INTERNATIONAL flavor of this site, because this was your number two selection- FREE TRIAL OFFER - Give it a try, click on the name.

 

Friend Search 

 

Friend Search generates 7000 new DATING profiles daily! 1 minute to sign up! Free to join! Free to search! Free to contact! Meet singles in your area tonight. Browse millions of photo personals to make friends, go dating, find love or long term relationships. 1000s of matches made thru our Cupid's matchmaking service. Rated the World's #1 FREE Online Dating site. 

 

3) I guess you guys liked this site too, because this was your number three selection- FREE TRIAL OFFER - Give it a try, click on the name.

Metrodate.com

Metrodate.com is the best way to meet singles in your city or around the world! Search our member profiles with personal messages, photos, videos, and voice messages from singles that are anxious to meet you! Sign up for a free membership to create your own profile, visit the chat rooms, message boards, dating tips and more! Premium membership is also available! Singles travel, singles events, nightlife and restaurant guides, and much more!

DATING SERVICES -

OK so we are back to MY selections of the best sites to try.

1) Well in my book Match.com is simply THE BIGGEST and THE BEST. If you want to meet a massive amount of dates you have to belong to Match.com (and know the data in my eReport - How I Got 700 Dates in One Year) Now I just looked up my data from a typical year when I was using all these services and I saw that I got THREE TIMES as many women's phone numbers from MATCH.COM as the nearest competitor. (And 10 times the phone numbers I got from FRIENDFINDER which is number (2) below). For sheer numbers you can't beat MATCH.COM. Now Match.com is constantly changing and consequently does have its better and worse periods, but definitely give the free trial a whirl. In fact If you get my report and learn how to use these services --you'll be helpless without it--you could do the 700 dates in one year (if you live in a big city or are willing to travel to one--from MATCH.COM alone.

Try Match.com Free for 3 days  Last year alone, more than 500,000 singles found meaningful relationships through Match.com's online personals and singles ads. Match.com pioneered the Internet dating industry, launching in 1995 what is now the most recognized dating service worldwide, and today serves more than 15 million singles in 240 countries. And, as an undisputable leader in the industry, Match.com continues to redefine the way single men and single women meet, flirt, date and fall in love, proving time and again that you can make love happen through online dating and that lasting relationships are possible. Match.com singles are serious about finding love. And Match puts you in control of your love life; meeting that special someone and forming a lasting relationship is as easy as clicking on any one of the millions of photos and singles ads available online. Whether you're interested in Christian Dating, Jewish Dating, Asian Dating, Black Dating, Senior Dating, Gay Dating, Match.com can help you find the date or relationship that fits you best. Search free through millions of online personals. Literally, hundreds of thousands of single men and single women right in your area have posted personal ads on Match.com.

2) Now here is one of my old favorites. Now don't let what I said above tend to scare you away from using Friendfinder. All of these services are different and have their unique pluses and minuses. Women on here tend to be aggressive. Not as many hits as Match.com but the women tend to be more aggressive. SO I used FRIENDFINDER in a LAZY MAN's way. I never emailed anyone, I just sat back and let women email me. So yes I just got 1/10th the phone numbers, but I probably expended 1/20th the effort.  Also a lot more international presence than match.com if you like that. Usinb BOTH Friendfinder and MATCH.COM provides you with a good balance of services.

FRIENDFINDERS.COM

Join for free and meet local singles for dating, romance, fun, and more.

Founded in 1996, FriendFinder is one of the largest and most successful online dating networks. From our high volume flagship FriendFinder.com to SeniorFriendFinder. PLUS we just added 6 new sites to our program. Now you can join Amigos, AsiaFriendFinder, JewishFriendFinder, GermanFriendFinder, GayFriendFinder and BigChurch.

FriendFinder's millions of members ensures that the singles who join will find many attractive, eligible dates in their own home town. And they'll be well on their way to starting a new, exciting and fulfilling relationship.

3) Here is a relatively new but very interesting Dating Site. They, like Friendfinder, have a lot of niche specialty sites too. Try a free profile.

Metrodate.com

Metrodate.com is the best way to meet singles in your city or around the world! Search our member profiles with personal messages, photos, videos, and voice messages from singles that are anxious to meet you! Sign up for a free membership to create your own profile, visit the chat rooms, message boards, dating tips and more! Premium membership is also available! Singles travel, singles events, nightlife and restaurant guides, and much more!
 
 
4) Here is a relatively new service with lots of members (23 million). Set up a free profile and try it out.
 

FEATURES

Traffic comes to play.and stays - for the exceptional DateNation feature set:

  • Sophisticated chat technology
  • Member Webcam Broadcasts
  • Matchmaking features including Cupid Service
  • Blogs
  • Relationship Magazine - with content for and by members
  • Friend Network
  • Adult Location Directory

5) Another service that has been around a long time. It has some unique features and good response rates. Also has telephone based products, which I particularly liked and found to be more fun than the online stuff.

Join Lavalife NOW!  

Meet 1000s of sexy singles at Lavalife, one of the world's top online dating destinations!  Signing up is fast and FREE, and within 
minutes you can start sending and receiving unlimited free smiles.  Additionally, it's always free to reply when someone contacts
you. Post your profile in 3 unique communities, from dating to intimate, and start connecting with local singles in minutes. 
Communicate via email, IM, video messaging, private backstage passes, webcam and more.  Sign up for FREE now!

We recognize that all human beings have the need to interact. Our history is filled with elaborate courting rituals and traditions. While our society may have changed, our need to be social and to connect with each other hasn't. That's why Lavalife was created. We're a global brand and the world's largest independent provider of technology based meeting services designed to create possibilities for singles. We offer telephone-based products in over forty cities throughout North America and Australia, and www.lavalife.com on the world wide web.

Lavalife gives singles the chance to click effectively with many people in a safe and entertaining environment. We recognize the complexity of meeting others in our fast paced modern society and dedicate ourselves to providing solutions. Our customers have the control to choose when and how they want to click - for any kind of connection, whether it is friendship, dating or relationships.

6) NOW HERE IS A NEW ONE I JUST DISCOVERED. It has some unique features and they have a really cool FREE TRIAL because the first time you log on, it is fully featured and requires no credit card.  SO you really get to try it out for yourself and see if you like it.

ELITEMATE.COM

Consumers can sign up for a free online profile with Elitemate.com. The first log-in is fully privileged for the entire site. Elitemate offers many unique features you won't find on other dating sites such as accelerated instant messenger, video profiles, greeting cards, singles events and parties, anonymous telephone communication and much more!

7) Here is another relatively new service that has a great FREE TRIAL OFFER - NO CREDIT CARD REQUIRED. Give it a try. 

Singlesnet.com

One of the hottest dating sites on the internet, Singlesnet.com now boasts a great Free Trial offer with NO credit card required. It takes only 30 seconds to create an account, and users can immediately receive and reply to messages from other Singlesnet members!

8) Mate 1 is another relatively new service that has a lot of agressive women on it. WOmen are free - maybe that's why. But Give it a try. They usually have a free trail period for men.

Mate 1 Online Dating - Mate1 is one of the hottest dating sites on the internet - and totally FREE for women! Mate seekers can meet hot singles in their area instantly.

9) FRIEND SEARCH is another relatively new service with a lot of COOL FEATURES and a HUGE INTERNATIONAL COMMUNITY. If you want to date INTERNATIONALLY give this one a try.

 

Friend Search 

 

Friend Search generates 7000 new DATING profiles daily! 1 minute to sign up! Free to join! Free to search! Free to contact! Meet singles in your area tonight. Browse millions of photo personals to make friends, go dating, find love or long term relationships. 1000s of matches made thru our Cupid's matchmaking service. Rated the World's #1 FREE Online Dating site. 

 

10) DATING TO RELATING dot NET! This is a service I put together as a result of your survey answers. BASIC services are TOTALLY FREE. NO FEES ever, and you DON'T EVEN NEED A CREDIT CARD to sign up. So use this basic free service, then if you want to pay a small fee you can upgrade to some really cool services, like AUDIO and VIDEO chat, PC to PC phone calls. There are millions of members in the database and we have members all over the world. If you want to date locally or  INTERNATIONALLY give this one a try.

 

 

DatingToRelating.net 

 

DatingToRelating.net has totallly free services! 1 minute to sign up! Free to join! Free to search! Free to contact! Free to respond. Meet singles in your area or internationally tonight. Browse millions of photo personals. You are going to really like this one! We even have an affilate program built in so you can make money referring your friends.

 

11) NOW THIS IS NEW. Took me a little while to research it but I came up with some 100% FREE SITES -not just free trials, but NO FEES EVER!  NOW this seems to be what a lot of you guys wanted. They don't ALL work quite as well as some of the paid sites, but what they heck, they are FREE, and some of them even work BETTER. Go to my NEW PAGE below and get the INFO:

 

 

100% FREE ONLINE DATING SITES DIRECTORY- no fees ever

 

RELATIONSHIP SERVICES

These are MY Selections for Relationship Type sites

1) Now this is an interesting service. You can sign up and contact people for free. There is a 7 day free trial. Also have a very interesting profile match test that you should take.

About Perfectmatch.com

Start meeting the right people at Perfectmatch.com, guaranteed.

Perfectmatch.com® (Perfectmatch), a leading online dating and relationship service, is the best approach for adults seeking successful, lasting relationships. It is the only online dating and relationship service to offer the Duet® Total Compatibility System (Duet®), co-developed by internationally renowned relationship expert, Dr. Pepper Schwartz (Dr. Schwartz). Based on over 30 years of research, Duet® analyzes the ?whole person', taking into account each member's Personality, Values and Ideals, Life and Lovestyle? and Preferences to identify and find the person right for them. This unique and proprietary system enables Perfectmatch to provide both the best online capabilities and member experience to those seeking a real love, a relationship or marriage.

Enjoyed by millions of Perfectmatch members, Duet® has proven to be more effective than any matchmaking service on the Web. By identifying key elements, Perfectmatch determines unique compatibility types and provides highly compatible matches to its members. Unlike the eHarmony® experience, Perfectmatch provides both highly compatible matches and powerful, easy to use search tools.

Perfectmatch was founded and is managed by the team who pioneered online dating from its infancy. The foremost authorities in online dating, the Perfectmatch team previously built and managed Kiss.com/uDate.com to over seven million members, leading up to the sale to InterActiveCorp (Match.com) in 2002.

Perfectmatch has forged partnerships with numerous world-class brands, including iVillage, MSNBC, Oxygen Networks, Warner Bros. and NBC Universal Studios. The newest book written by Dr. Schwartz, "Finding Your Perfect Match" (Penguin), appears in bookstores nationwide.

2) This is a relatively new service but it large and has pretty good action.

TRUE.COM.....Try True.com's 7-day FREE trial

A dating site beyond personal ads ...

  • Find your most compatible matches - for dating, romance, love and more
  • Coaching and matchmaking services give you expert profile and personal ad advice
  • Use your webcam and get up-close and personal with live videochat
  • Meet singles at the only single dating service that screens for marrieds and felons
  • Browse members' personal ads, personal profiles and personal photos
  • For instant gratification, use our one-click search for a single man or single woman, or get more tailored results with an advanced single search
  • Find the freshest personal profiles on TRUE any time you want
  • Get a head start and find single men and women who are looking for a single just like you - based on how you describe yourself in your personal profile

3) This is one of the first sites in on the RELATIONSHIP side of things. Another intersting site specializing in compatibility mathcing. Take the free personality test

eharmony.com

The first relationship service on the Web to use a scientific approach to match highly compatible singles. Millions of people of all ages, ethnicities, and religious backgrounds have used eHarmony's patented Compatibility Matching System? to find the love of their lives.

Building on its enormous success matching compatible singles, eHarmony launched a revolutionary new service in 2006 to help couples achieve stronger, healthier and happier marriages. eHarmony Marriage is a personalized, interactive, online "marriage wellness" program designed to help marriages flourish by building a deepened sense of understanding, appreciation and connectedness. eHarmony Marriage gives every couple the opportunity to look at their marriage objectively and increase the joy and intimacy in a private, practical and positive program.

4) Well what can I say. They've been around for 30 years. Not really an on-line experience, but you can fill out your profile online for free. Give it a tary if you are adventurous.

GREAT EXPECTATIONS
 
With so many dating services out there, what makes Great Expectations different from the others?

With nearly 30 years of experience in helping people find true love, we have a distinct advantage over newcomers to the industry. And in order to ensure a safer dating experience, we:

  • Screen and validate vital information
  • Meet every member face to face
  • Maintain current photographs and videos that accurately represent your potential dates

Once you have decided it's time to make a change in your social situation, all you need to do is contact us. As a member, you will have access to a team of relationship professionals and thousands of member profiles. Also, you will receive invitations to Great Expectations parties and events exclusive to members. The people you will meet are single and live in your area. Our state-of-the-art matching system, combined with our compassionate team members will help put you in your desired relationship quickly. The quality of service and attention to detail we provide is unparalleled in the dating industry.

DO YOU KNOW HOW TO GET A SECOND DATE?

 

Ninety percent of the woman I go out with on a first date, want to have a sexual relationship with me by the end of the date. So guys have asked me. "What is the biggest mistake guys make on the first date that prevents ever having a second date or developing a sexual relationship (rather than a friendship) ?"

 

Well there are several mistakes a guy can make. Let me summarize them here then go into more detail. MISTAKES ARE:

 

1)      Talking about yourself too much. Trying to be interesting instead of INTERESTED

2)      NOT ASKING QUESTIONS AND NOT LISTENING ENOUGH.

3)      FOCUSING TOO MUCH ON SEX-- either overtly or by innuendo.

4)      NOT USING SUBTLETIES ENOUGH (What a woman understands)

5)      NOT DEVELOPING SEXUAL FLOW OR INTEREST.

6)      NOT CREATING FUTURE. (A relationship is ALL about FUTURE.)

 

The first mistake that most guys make is that they go on the first date and talk all about themselves, sort of strut around telling the girl that he's got this car, and he's got this job and he talks and talks and talks bragging about this and that trying to impress the girl that he is a good catch.

 

What a girl sees is a self-centered ego maniac that isn't going to be able to take care of her at all, because he is not interested in her and doesn't listen to what she has to say. Not a good relationship prospect.

 

Another way of saying it is that guys try to be interesting. They figure they have to be interesting for a girl to be interested in them. Sorry guys, but it doesn't work that way. You have to be INTERESTED in the girl, not INTERESTING to get her attention. Did you ever see two interesting people on a date. It is hilarious!  They are both so busy trying to be interesting to the other that neither has time to be interested in the other.

 

If you don't know what I am talking about, think what makes you feel better. A girl who is INTERESTED in you? Or a girl who is telling you how cool she is, how hot she is, etc. and all kinds of other INTERESTING things.

 

INTERESTING leads to a lot of rejection and "platonic" friendships by the way. Girls will be friends with a guy who is really interesting. Why? Girls like to be amused and entertained. Interesting men are sort of like children to them. A source of non-sexual amusement and pleasure.

 

Then there are the guys who are SCARED S***less and don't know what to say. So they say all kinds of useless and banal and irrelevant stuff to again be INTERESTING to the girl.

 

Then there are guys who dread silence. So whenever there is a silent moment they feel awkward and have to fill the silence with some noise, so they open their mouths and say something trite and banal again just to keep the conversation going and again to be INTERESTING to the girl.- THEY AREN'T. You don't have to fill silence with verbal chatter. Maybe it is a good time for some non-verbal communication?like a smile, or a light touch.

 

90% of the girls I have a first date with want to go out with me again and have a relationship with me. WHY, well the biggest factor is I am INTERESTED in getting to know them. So I never come scripted, I am always just there and I ask questions designed  to get to know the person in front of me. THE SECRET: Well, I just said part of it, so here is it all

 

I AM INTERESTED. I ASK QUESTIONS and then I LISTEN TO THE ANSWERS. Based on the answer they give, I may ask another question or I might say something that I know they would be interested in knowing because of what they just said.

 

MOST of the time I spend about 80% of my time on a date LISTENING. Girls like that.

 

ANOTHER BIG MISTAKE GUYS MAKE that prevents a second date is putting too much conversation attention on sex, sexual topics, sexual innuendos, and her looks.

 

ALL WOMEN THINK that ALL GUYS JUST WANT SEX. So basically, they are right and guys have to realize that girls have our number and are not impressed by it. GIRLS already KNOW you want sex. She wouldn't even be there on the first date, if she weren't vaguely OK with the concept of having sex with you. What she wants to know is: WHAT ELSE do you want; what ELSE do you like about her; what ELSE can you do for her; What ELSE do you have in common with her; how ELSE can you have fun together.

 

So, LISTEN to what she talks about, because If you listen you will get clues.

 

GIRLS communicate in SUBTLETIES and like to be communicated to with SUBTLETIES.

 

As a rule I NEVER tell a good looking woman she is good looking until the 3rd or 4th date.  That is a subtle communication that tells her that I am not like all the other guys who kiss her behind.

 

So, you see,  you don't have to tell a woman how pretty she is on a first date. (Especially if she is gorgeous, because she gets so much of this so often, it actually becomes a turn-off to her.) You can complement her on her dress, or her shoes, or you can say she has a nice personality (find something non-sexual you like about her and complement it) or you could say (but only once and non-repetitively) she has pretty eyes, or a cute nose, or a nice smile, or she has pretty hands. (Always pick a non-sexual part of the body to complement)

 

So if you don't talk about yourself and sex. What DO you talk about? Talk about whatever the girl wants to talk about. LISTEN, and base your conversation off of what she is interested in.  Ask questions about her . BUT you should have two goals for the night..

 

1) DEVELOPING SEXUAL FLOW OR INTEREST.

 

Now you don't want to TALK about SEXUAL stuff too much, but that does not mean you don't want to get the old sexual juices going. BUT you do that mostly non-verbally, not verbally (Unless she starts a sexual conversation with you.) Now some of the DATING GURUS have real good courses on how a man can be sexy and get a woman's attention sexually. (David DeAngelo's course comes to mind.) And this is an in depth topic that is much too deep for my article here. So let's just say it is done with posture, manners, attitude, movement , voice rhythms, and the occasional moving in close and the withdrawing, or light touch or holding of the hand momentarily. Verbally it is done with the right gradient of topic. If you do it right the woman will always give you a goodnight kiss as a way of further testing that sector out , and let you know by her non-verbal signals, whether you should continue or just let it go with a simple light kiss. It is better to develop it, make the woman want more, and walk away than to over reach and destroy everything else you have built up here. A simple hug, or a light kiss or the cheek or the mouth is what I do on 90% of my first dates that I am interested in.

 

 

2) CREATE FUTURE

 

What is future? Well if you are going to have a relationship with someone, rather than just a one-date-goodbye. You have to have some future interaction. AND FUTURE IS NOT "Can we go out again sometime." That is definitely NOT FUTURE. That is a plea! Begging! And this will definitely scare them away. (Watch "Blind Date" on TV some time.)

 

Future is scheduling something that you both would be interested in doing for whatever reasons, sometime in the future. Something with value to both of you. YOU may want to have SEX with the girl right away in the future.. BUT SHE DOESN'T- not yet.. She wants to get to know you a little better. So FUTURE is a way that she can get to know you a little better, before deciding if she wants to have a sexual relationship with you or not. GIRLS LIKE THAT. And girls like guys who understand that.

 

YOU SEE the girl wouldn't go out on the first date with you if there weren't some possibility that she could have sex with you. (BEING THERE is a subtle communication. She wouldn't be there if she wasn't somewhat interested.) So, unless you blow it, you will get sex eventually. HOWEVER, most guys DO blow it 9 out of 10 times instead of closing as I do 9 out of 10 times.

 

So how to create FUTURE? Well on a date it is relatively easy. APPLY what I have said above. ASK QUESTIONS and LISTEN. She will tell you something that gives you a subtle opportunity to see her again, and it should be something she would be really interested in and it won't scare her off.

 

EXAMPLE OF WHAT WORKS:

 

While you are listening she talks about the math class she is taking in college she is having trouble with. You happen to me a math genius. You simply say, "Well I am really good at math. If you would like some help with your homework. Let me know." Then shut up. If she is interested in you, she will take the bait and say. "Yeah, oh I would so appreciate that" or something of the sort. If you have totally blown it by now and she doesn't want your help despite her learning disability, she won't take the bait. THAT WON'T HAPPEN unless you violated something else I have talked about here, and you talked about yourself too much, tried to be interesting, didn't listen, talked about sex or how pretty she was too much.

 

While you are listening she says how she really likes to go dancing. So if you like dancing you say "Really, me too. I love dancing, let's do that sometime." Or if you don't like to dance , don't lie. Say "Really, then maybe you could help me because I don't know a thing about dancing but I think its time I learned. Do you think you could teach me a little sometime."

 

GET IT. Come up with something you guys could do in the future that she and you would really like to do, that's not a plea "Can we go out again?"

 

By the way FUTURE is the key to meeting girls on the street in the store etc. Lots of girls will give you their phone numbers but about 90% of the beautiful women I know say they would never have a relationship with someone they met that way. BUT if you can establish FUTURE right there on the street or on the first call you can destroy those odds. And REMEMBER FUTURE is NOT "Can we go out sometime." To a women that just means you want sex, and you are asking for it before you have established any other value to her.

 

You see, meeting girls who work in stores or restaurants is easier than stopping them on the street, because the situation already has future built in.. you know where they work, you can come back again and again, she can get to know you ..FUTURE you see.

 

But, stopping a girl on the street and establishing FUTURE. Now that can be a challenge.. But, I've done it. Many times. You apply the same principles above. Don't talk about yourself. Be interested in her. Ask questions. Listen to the answers. When she says the opportune thing that you can tell has value to her.then jump right in with some FUTURE.

 

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